love

How Will You Know If You are Deeply in Love

It’s like a scene from a movie where everything stops and the only person you can see is that person who caught your attention.  We often ask ourselves if we are really serious about the current relationship that we have, would this be a sign of love or just simple infatuation.

 

We are always victims of expecting too much on our present relationship, working too hard to let everything work out, but sadly sometimes even we’ve given our all, there are times when we get nervous and curious whether it is all worth it or you’re just enjoying the feeling of being loved.  Listed below are few of the things to check if you are deeply in love:

 

His Presence

You are in love when you always want to see your partner, that a week or two without seeing him makes you feel weak. Nothing could explain that mix of emotion you have when you get to see him, you fancy late night imaginations of you with him travelling to places you want to go. The things you see around you often times make you remember those moments you have, that despite not being together at the moment, you feel his presence through the memories that keeps on flashing on your mind.  His presence is indescribable, something you wouldn’t feel with anybody else, the thought of him makes you happy, and no tome is too long for you; you could see yourself spending your whole life with him.

 

He Is Your Morning Burst Of Sunshine

You are definitely in love with the person, if he is the first person you’d think of when you wake up in the morning.  Even you are still half asleep, this person sneaks into your mind and plays in your dreams. You consider him as a morning pill that despite the back aches, just by imagining him close to you, you’ll feel better. You can’t pass an hour after waking up without texting him or sending him a morning greeting online; he is one of the “must” you have to attend to every morning.

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If you are in love, you are not afraid to show it, not even intimidated even others might see your sweet gestures. You are happy making him happy, you care less about people saying that it’ll take your class away; you are focused on “Me and Him against the World”.

 

When You Became Another Person

You are deeply in love if you are able to change the not so good habits that you have; you unconsciously change your attitude and became a better person.  The way you look at things might change; how you react to situations and how you interact with other people. Slowly you become someone you thought would be impossible, the way you dress, your facial expression, the words that you use, your hobbies, and even your preference. You get to become a better version of you just because you are in love, happy, and you wanted to be the best person for that special man.

 

Growing Older Is No Big Deal

There is no greater measure of being in love than imagining yourself growing old with that person. You don’t care looking at each other with  wrinkled faces, what matters most for you is that you’ve created the most amazing days of your life with someone you love the most. You are not afraid of getting old because you see yourself happy and satisfied going through all those old-age agonies and laughing out arthritis pains.

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Finding the Right One and the Process of Moving On

Before we go deeper, let’s start from the beginning when we first have to find ourselves. Considering that we are looking for potential partner we should also consider ourselves as the subject; discover  yourself first and ask yourself  Simple questions such as what is  favorite color?, your favorite food?, what keeps you busy?  You first need to identify who you are and the things that matters; you need to understand yourself first before others, just always remember that in a relationship the word “right” doesn’t mean “perfect” it is always a “trial and error” method. Though you get to meet someone who could be “potential” person there is no guarantee that whether he would be the person you’ll end up with.

 

When you think you already found the “right” one, don’t ground yourself to the happy feeling you’re experiencing, keep yourself open to all possibilities; like not actually ending up together. Be ready, sometime you have to think negatively to avoid further emotional damage. So even you are in the middle of a fairytale and so much inlove try imagining yourself getting hurt or have a taste of disappointment; and when that sinks in it would be easy for you to adjust and move on if time comes.

 

The Process of Moving On

We all get hurt at times, but the most memorable one are the ones that we least expect.  Less expectation, less frustrations.  Listed below are the stages of moving on and how to deal with it.

 

Why Did It Happen

After a break up we often ask questions why and how did it happen. We keep on asking ourselves the same thing over and over again. Desperate to find answers we sometimes tend to ask ex’s of what really causes the break-up.  This is the hardest part, because no matter how painful the truth would be, there is only one thing you can do; DEAL WITH IT.

 

The Denial

After a not so good conversation with ex’s the pain follows, in this stage you already have heard all he or she has to say; from your first fight up to the things he/she said you did but actually never happened.  The past will be dug out of the coffin and the things that didn’t matter before are making a huge scene on the break-up.

 

You would ask yourself if it’s really you who caused everything, you can’t stop thinking if you have done something wrong. The pain aggravates as you recall everything, and slowly you realize that there’s nothing wrong with you; you have done your part it’s just that it was never enough for him/her. – andits not your fault, it’s their loss.

 

Anger

Anger is the aftermath of all the efforts you’ve done that turns into nothing.  In this stage you would hate the fact that you have wasted your time on winning him/her back and adds to the frustration that you are still broken hearted. You will soon realize that he/she are the one to blame; you look at your past relationship as a total waste of time and that you should’ve never met him/her.

 

Acceptance and Moving On

The bright side of every broken hearts is that it has the capacity to heal itself, but it is up to you whether you’ll end up better or bitter. So when you are hurt right now feeling down and helpless, just look at the brighter side and remember that things happen for a reason; when a door closes, another one will open for you. As what they say, you’ll never have the chance to experience better things if you won’t let go of the wrong ones. In the first place, if both of you really see each other as that someone they want to grow old with, with all your effort you should’ve done everything to make things work.

 

“Someday, you’ll meet that person that would make you understand why all those past relationships didn’t work out”.

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